Coping with Grief

These are some frequent symptoms people experience as they go through the grieving process. Not everyone goes through the same things, and what each person feels and experiences will be as unique as the individual person.

How to Help a Grieving Person

There are many ways to be supportive of a person experiencing the grieving process

Understand that the grieving person will always feel the loss, but that he or she will learn to live with it over time.

Coping with Grief during the Holidays

Whether your loved one died recently or decades ago, the holidays bring forth powerful memories that may stimulate your grief.When trying to deal with grief, it's important to understand that grief is cumulative.
We don't suffer a loss, move through predetermined emotional phases, then surface on the other side. Here are some tips to help you cope with grief during the holidays:

Children and Grief

Caring adults should adapt our suggestions to fit the age and maturity of the individual child. A special section about teenagers adds insight for that age group.The most important message is: You can't fix grief. Caring adults who try to 'fix' or 'solve' a child's grief will be frustrated. Their good intentions will not work. Instead, caring adults need to honor and support the child's grief.

Death is an event that leaves a permanent hole in a child's life. It cannot be fixed.

Allow the child to grieve. Be available for the child. Listen. Do not set a time limit on grief. Encourage them to share. Help them find their own words.

Talking and Listening

Encourage communication, but don't force it. Listen carefully. Acknowledge and validate the child's feelings. Take seriously what the child is saying. Address concerns as they come up.

Be sensitive to what may have triggered it. Talk about it, if they want.
Express your love.